OK. What follows is my own view. I recommend you try a few systems out, if possible at clubs or modellers with bigger layouts, or at a better dealer. What works well on a small simple layout might not work so well on something bigger.
The 40-limit in the Dynamis is going to be a problem.
It can be worked around - give two locos never used at the same time the same numerical address and description (eg. description = "Voyager / GNR Single" as neither would run on the same operating session). But ultimately its a pain in the neck.
Power, I doubt that many OO layouts ever need more than 5amps to run ( a handful of Heljan's can draw 1A, but generally they need less), so most of the bigger command stations are going to be OK.
You've not mentioned signals or turnouts under DCC control. I assume they are done either manually or with an analogue control panel? If so, then DCC handsets with lots of buttons and macros to drive turnouts are not much use unless you plan to add the turnout decoders !
Wireless, nice, but there are other ways such as a lot of plug-in points around the layout so operators unplug if they want to follow their loco around, then plug in at the nearest convinient socket. Pretty much all makers support this, the interconnect is usually 6 or 8 core cable back to the command station.
Look on Ebay to see how much a Dynamis sells for s/hand - there is a market for them. I haven't looked to see if the new RMWeb has a "for sale" board, the old one did and it seemed to work quite well between members.
I doubt there is much in it in prices for any of Digitrax, Lenz or NCE once you've factored in enough control knobs (throttles), etc. ESU might be cost effective if you have Apple iPhone/iTouch around to use as a software throttle, otherwise its a significant step up the price curve.