Modelling mojo and state of mind

[Northmoor]

11 hours ago, Willie Whizz said:

I agree one shouldn't put too much reliance on 'psychological testing' like Myers-Briggs and their ilk - but for me at least it did pull back a curtain a little way and shed a chink of light on the kind of person I am and the kind of characteristics I have.  I think this can be a helpful key to understanding - or at least, making you think about - issues like "Have I actually been in an unsuitable job for me all these years?  And do I actually enjoy it, even though I seem on the face of it to be reasonably good at it?"

 

The problem is, we too often think of ourselves as "normal" (or at least as "the norm") and measure everybody else by our own benchmarks.  And in some contexts we may not actually be "the norm", and might with hindsight have been happier doing something else all along.  My own issue has been that I could never work out what the "something else" might be.

Don't underestimate how much of a stressor it is to be in that employment situation.  I was in one for nine years and only towards the end (redundancy, which I was delighted to receive) did I understand how much I was putting on an act every day, and it was exhausting.  Ironically it was probably the release of that stress but the addition of a lot more in the next company - with a workplace culture I really did NOT get along with - that took me very close to the edge and to a place I have no desire to go near again.

[97406]

Anyhow I got my red stripe done yesterday. Masked off on the main body before work and applied a coat. Another coat mid morning when I take a short tea break, a third at lunch, then did the ends in the evening. I'm an early riser so put it back together just now.

 

A great way to disengage from work for a few moments at a time and then return refreshed. A benefit of working from home.

 

 

[Ben B]

On 20/06/2023 at 09:38, Willie Whizz said:

I did the Myers-Briggs personality test years back, on a management development course. I forget the actual score combination now, but it did show that compared to the majority of Managers in my large organisation I was in a minority sector, which might explain why I sometimes felt a bit like a “fish out of water”. 
 

“OK then”, I said to the Tutor, “If I’m not really suited to the job I’m doing, what career does this score optimise me for doing instead”?”  “Oh crikey!” he said, “Nobody has ever asked THAT before!  No idea, but I’ll ring them up and get back to you tomorrow”. 
 

Next day he told me:  “I rang up the Myers-Briggs people, and they say your particular score group is typical of the Chief Executives of large American corporations.”

 

I’ll take it!”, I cried: “Where do I sign!”

 

 

 

I remember when I worked at a cafe-bistro about 15 years back, we did a personality test with a visiting consultant one evening. Much hilarity came from the fact that, as we suspected, our most flamboyantly extroverted staff were the two cooks who spent all day in the basement kitchen, and the manager who was stuck forever in her office. Meanwhile, the two highest-scoring introverts were myself (in charge of daytime front of house) and my colleague Scarlet, who ran the evening shift :)

 

Thing is, I pointed out to the consultant I was damned well aware I was an awkward introvert, I'd taken the job on purpose. As a shy, quiet, slightly depressive chap who'd graduated into an equally depressed economy where the only local jobs were in the service sector, I needed to get over my dislike of people if I wanted to earn any sort of a wage...

[97406]

7 minutes ago, Ben B said:

 

I remember when I worked at a cafe-bistro about 15 years back, we did a personality test with a visiting consultant one evening. Much hilarity came from the fact that, as we suspected, our most flamboyantly extroverted staff were the two cooks who spent all day in the basement kitchen, and the manager who was stuck forever in her office. Meanwhile, the two highest-scoring introverts were myself (in charge of daytime front of house) and my colleague Scarlet, who ran the evening shift :)

 

Thing is, I pointed out to the consultant I was damned well aware I was an awkward introvert, I'd taken the job on purpose. As a shy, quiet, slightly depressive chap who'd graduated into an equally depressed economy where the only local jobs were in the service sector, I needed to get over my dislike of people if I wanted to earn any sort of a wage...

 

I enjoy regular bouts of being extrovert, but there is a limit before I must retire back to my lair away from people to plot world domination! In 1:76 scale at least!

 

 

[Blandford1969]

On 20/06/2023 at 00:47, skipepsi said:

You would be surprised how often ADHD and Autism occur together about 33%.  Which diagnosis can be dependent on the hospital or consultant involved.

I don't want a formal diagnosis knowing that in some areas I would be thought a lot less of. It just helps with being able to understand my challenges and also better understand ideas on how to mitigate them. 

[Northmoor]

On 20/06/2023 at 09:53, Type 2 said:

I remember when some people just used to be called strange or weird.  I was one of them, and still am, and I'm proud of it.

 

I'm sorry if this offends anyone, it's not meant to at all, but personally I'm fed up with all this needless labelling which can seriously affect peoples lives (I have two people close to me whose lives have been wrecked after being labelled and medicated)

I respectfully disagree, but whatever works for you, stick with it.  Far, far more people have been held back by being labelled, "Strange or Weird" than will ever be by being labelled "On the Spectrum".  No-one ever got a job because they were weird, but in some fields, people are specifically targeted for recruitment because they are on the ASD spectrum.  

 

I do agree that some people do get wrongly diagnosed (e.g. with ADHD) while some self-diagnose then (like a hypochondriac) seek out a professional diagnosis until they find one that confirms it, even if it is wrong.  But these are greatly out-numbered by those who have benefitted from a diagnosis, my son included.

[MrWolf]

I too am on the spectrum, got a pretty good score on the Asperger's scale. I also have CPTSD. My other half has the same and a number of other little issues, some of which I am convinced is the reason why she now has a doctorate.

I find that in some circles, being "on the spectrum" is almost celebrated (I find that more than a little patronising to be honest.) and in other jobs it marks you out as not being a "team player". (Annoying.)

The big problem I have with diagnosis is that on numerous occasions I have overheard conversation or been told directly that a parent is trying to get one of their children diagnosed with ADHD because of the extra benefits they will receive.

Never mind the child being damned for life unless they're either very skilled or given some real direction which will make a good future for them, they're just thinking about the free cash.

So most people tend to think that you're just jumping on a fashionable bandwagon or making excuses for perceived laziness, ineptitude or asocial behaviour.

[woodenhead]

48 minutes ago, MrWolf said:

The big problem I have with diagnosis is that on numerous occasions I have overheard conversation or been told directly that a parent is trying to get one of their children diagnosed with ADHD because of the extra benefits they will receive.

Never mind the child being damned for life unless they're either very skilled or given some real direction which will make a good future for them, they're just thinking about the free cash.

So most people tend to think that you're just jumping on a fashionable bandwagon or making excuses for perceived laziness, ineptitude or asocial behaviour.

Whilst there are those parents who do look at the financial side of diagnosis and push for things simply because it gets them cash, actually there feels like there is an epidemic of Autism combined with ADHD.

 

Mrs W is a Speech and Language therapist, she feels that most of her job these days is completing assessments for the paediatricians to diagnose someone on the spectrum girls as well as boys.  She doesn't see much of the Speech stuff these days, it all seems to be communication, socialisation, behavioural and assessments.  She often wonders what is causing it, my view is perhaps that parents brains are wired differently as they will be some of the first generations brought up with mobile phones, social media, online gaming etc and they are passing this down in a Darwinian manner but it comes out as Autism in their offspring.  Certainly something has caused a massive spike in cases.

[Rugd1022]

Further to my post a few days ago, I've spent most of today wading through some very interesting threads on here and feeling a nice warm glow, particularly the in the '7mm Modelling' section and a few layout threads I never knew existed, inspiring stuff most definitely. I've also been a bit naughty and ordered a fair number of old OPC and Wild Swan books online (some are surprisingly cheap but some certainly aren't!) a few of which I've owned before but sold on for some unfathomable reason. The gist of all this nefarious activity is a welcome kickstart to proceedings and I've been eyeing up some rather nice laser-cut building kits in 4mm and 7mm which look very tempting, they seem like a good way to get started again, whether or not I actually get down to building a proper layout, but it seems like the right way to go at the moment.

 

Softly, softly, catchee monkey maybe...?

 

 

 

 

[Coldgunner]

Car is overdue its service and its going to be expensive this time I think. Apart from the usual oil change etc, she's going to need a new set of brake pads on all corners. Thankfully I've got a good garage who never try to oversell unnecessary work. That's the tip of the iceberg though.

 

The 'person' who complained about myself and some colleagues last year over some of our banter has reared her ugly head again. This time a complaint about another member of staff for similar reasons. I've been told all this on the QT, but I think the powers to be have possibly smelled a rat. This 'person' has a habit of trying to take charge, and then doesn't like it when she doesn't get her way. I guess her modus operandi is to make twisted complaints when she doesn't. Thankfully I'm not involved this time, but shall be keeping my ears to the ground for an outcome. I know the person the complaint is about and I think I know who to believe.

 

Modelling mojo is mixed atm, I've got a Revell 1:700 Titanic to build, I've had a morbid interest in the events of the past week which has ignited a fascination with deep sea dives. I'm stranded at home for a week as I can't get the car fixed till Monday, but I can have a train or two running to keep me sane.

 

The good news is that mum got tickets to #1 court at Wimbledon this year and I'm going with her. Never been, so I'd like to take a look around as well as enjoy a bit of tennis. Mums been several times before, she even got one of the big finals a few years ago. I'm looking forward to studying some of the history.

Edited June 27, 2023 by Coldgunner

[33C]

17 minutes ago, Coldgunner said:

Car is overdue its service and its going to be expensive this time I think. Apart from the usual oil change etc, she's going to need a new set of brake pads on all corners. Thankfully I've got a good garage who never try to oversell unnecessary work. That's the tip of the iceberg though.

 

The 'person' who complained about myself and some colleagues last year over some of our banter has reared her ugly head again. This time a complaint about another member of staff for similar reasons. I've been told all this on the QT, but I think the powers to be have possibly smelled a rat. This 'person' has a habit of trying to take charge, and then doesn't like it when she doesn't get her way. I guess her modus operandi is to make twisted complaints when she doesn't. Thankfully I'm not involved this time, but shall be keeping my ears to the ground for an outcome. I know the person the complaint is about and I think I know who to believe.

 

Modelling mojo is mixed atm, I've got a Revell 1:700 Titanic to build, I've had a morbid interest in the events of the past week which has ignited a fascination with deep sea dives. I'm stranded at home for a week as I can't get the car fixed till Monday, but I can have a train or two running to keep me sane.

 

The good news is that mum got tickets to #1 court at Wimbledon this year and I'm going with her. Never been, so I'd like to take a look around as well as enjoy a bit of tennis. Mums been several times before, she even got one of the big finals a few years ago. I'm looking forward to studying some of the history.

If she wants to take charge, everybody should push a little bit of work to her desk, and the reason? How important she is...and then a little bit more,  a little bit more, and a little bit more.  " Because your so clever". Like a wasp in a bee hive, suffocated under the pressure. She will be too busy to make complaints against any one else....

[didcot]

I caught the end of Lewis Capaldi's Glastonbury set. So good to see the crowd getting behind him and supporting him at a time that was clearly difficult. 

I hope he has a good rest and comes back firing on all cylinders.

[Coldgunner]

1 hour ago, didcot said:

I caught the end of Lewis Capaldi's Glastonbury set. So good to see the crowd getting behind him and supporting him at a time that was clearly difficult. 

I hope he has a good rest and comes back firing on all cylinders.

 

I didn't watch any of Glastonbury except when I was told Elton John did pinball wizard, a role he played in the film version of Tommy.

[Rugd1022]

Another boost to the old railway mojo - I've visited Paddington twice in the last week and despite the massive changes here and there I found myself gazing fondly into the past as I wandered around before nipping down onto the Elizabeth line en route to Acton Yard. Looking up at the roof was rather joyful and as hackneyed as it sounds, it really wasn't that difficult picturing Westerns, Warships and Hymeks loitering around at the stop blocks. Simple pleasures and all that 😉.

 

 

 

 

[Northmoor]

3 hours ago, Coldgunner said:

Car is overdue its service and its going to be expensive this time I think. Apart from the usual oil change etc, she's going to need a new set of brake pads on all corners. Thankfully I've got a good garage who never try to oversell unnecessary work. That's the tip of the iceberg though.

 

The 'person' who complained about myself and some colleagues last year over some of our banter has reared her ugly head again. This time a complaint about another member of staff for similar reasons. I've been told all this on the QT, but I think the powers to be have possibly smelled a rat. This 'person' has a habit of trying to take charge, and then doesn't like it when she doesn't get her way. I guess her modus operandi is to make twisted complaints when she doesn't. Thankfully I'm not involved this time, but shall be keeping my ears to the ground for an outcome. I know the person the complaint is about and I think I know who to believe.

 

Modelling mojo is mixed atm, I've got a Revell 1:700 Titanic to build, I've had a morbid interest in the events of the past week which has ignited a fascination with deep sea dives. I'm stranded at home for a week as I can't get the car fixed till Monday, but I can have a train or two running to keep me sane.

 

The good news is that mum got tickets to #1 court at Wimbledon this year and I'm going with her. Never been, so I'd like to take a look around as well as enjoy a bit of tennis. Mums been several times before, she even got one of the big finals a few years ago. I'm looking forward to studying some of the history.

At a former employer, a male Divisional Director was accused by a relatively new female Senior Manager, of sexual discrimination.  The DD was a man of an earlier generation but one of the easiest-going Directors you could work with, no-one who knew him well could believe the accusations. 

 

The SM left and I believe, accepted a financial settlement.  About nine months later the news went round that she was now suing her new employer........ for sexual discrimination.  Having seen women who have genuinely been treated appallingly by their employers - in ways they would not dare have treated men - I reserve a special contempt for people who try to play the system for financial gain.

[rob D2]

12 hours ago, Rugd1022 said:

Another boost to the old railway mojo - I've visited Paddington twice in the last week and despite the massive changes here and there I found myself gazing fondly into the past as I wandered around before nipping down onto the Elizabeth line en route to Acton Yard. Looking up at the roof was rather joyful and as hackneyed as it sounds, it really wasn't that difficult picturing Westerns, Warships and Hymeks loitering around at the stop blocks. Simple pleasures and all that 😉.

 

 

 

 

It's still a magnificent building ... just lacking the right " noise " !

[Rugd1022]

1 hour ago, rob D2 said:

It's still a magnificent building ... just lacking the right " noise " !

 

Quite...!

 

 

(Photo by Jim Payne, essence of a particular kind of mojo captured in one image 😉)

 

 

[Coldgunner]

15 hours ago, Northmoor said:

At a former employer, a male Divisional Director was accused by a relatively new female Senior Manager, of sexual discrimination.  The DD was a man of an earlier generation but one of the easiest-going Directors you could work with, no-one who knew him well could believe the accusations. 

 

The SM left and I believe, accepted a financial settlement.  About nine months later the news went round that she was now suing her new employer........ for sexual discrimination.  Having seen women who have genuinely been treated appallingly by their employers - in ways they would not dare have treated men - I reserve a special contempt for people who try to play the system for financial gain.

 

I entirely agree, the whole business I went through last year has forced me to put walls up. I can't be open with anyone through fear of something I say being twisted, and I can't trust anyone. She couldn't take over so decided to try spurious complaints against us. I can't actually talk about the current complaint to anyone really as I was told in confidence and I don't know who else is aware, so I'll be keeping schtum about the whole thing for the time being.

[Rugd1022]

I think I must be having a bit of a lucky streek regarding the old 'mojo' this week, with some excellent offers of help from RMWebbers in my research into BR / SR subjects I'm giving serious thought to what kind of layout I can realistically build in either 4mm or 7mm. The sheer amount of stuff available in both scales is very encouraging, particularly in 4mm with the range of Bullied and Maunsell stock released in recent times by Hornby / Bachmann, plus the various laser-cut building kits in both scales. The idea of doing a smallish diorama first really appeals too. I've no idea how long this burst of enthusiasm will last, but it's a welcome kick up the Aris nonetheless. I doubt I'm the only one here who goes through these phases!

 

 

Edited July 9, 2023 by Rugd1022

[jbqfc]

My mojo was starting to slip due my contestant trips to the hospital trying find what i thought was a colitis flare up to taking up lots of  time 

today trip will be my last for a while i hope 

after both a colonoscopy and a gastroscopy no sign of colitis but they have found mild Gastritis in my stomach

this easy to treat but i will have to lay of some of my favourite foods for a while 

so i hope my mojo will get back to normal now 

 

John 

[Tim Dubya]

On 09/07/2023 at 20:11, Rugd1022 said:

I doubt I'm the only one here who goes through these phases!

 

You certainly aren't, although it's been the opposite with me recently.  Having had a blue light ride to hospital from my GP's surgery in November last year with a suspected broken ticker (it wasn't, I'm simply too lazy) and recently pneumonia (being treated at home for the last month), my mojo perked right up on both occasions.  I guess back in November it was being signed off for nearly two months and having no responsibility to or for work (on drs orders) that I was able to relax.  I could get me toys out and my whole flat became my workshop, crap everywhere, it was great!  I started on my first ever scratch built building and loved every minute of it.  That time off also gave me the opportunity to realise that, although I loved my job, I was under a massive amount of stress and I came to the conclusion that it just wasn't worth it anymore.  So after 21 years with the same employer (an FE college) I quit and got a part time job shoving paper in photocopiers at the university... and I love it! 

Mojo then receeded again until about a month ago when I got pneumonia (I went into shock when the Dr told me that's what it was, I mean, that's what really old folks get during long term hospital stays, right? - I'm 54). I was very ill for a while but as I've recovered, my mojo is definitely back and I'm rarely off here now (as some of you may have noticed) after a gap of 6 months or more.  I've planned visits to a couple of exhibitions, thinking about taking the plunge into building a loco kit and might actually restart the layout in the coming weeks.

 

Edited July 13, 2023 by Tim Dubya

[Tim Dubya]

Cut out the 🖤 's, I'm happier than I've been in a very long time!

 

😁

[rob D2]

I always think with chuffers it's worth having a range of projects on the go .

 

If your feeling a bit down and catatonic watch a few trains run 

 

If you are in point and in the zone do the stuff demanding concentration like scratch building .

 

Hslf way between - do some ballasting !

Edited July 13, 2023 by rob D2

[Rugd1022]

Instant therapy...

 

 

Sometimes it doesn't take much to get back on the horse 😉

 

 

 

 

[Coldgunner]

So had a bit of a breakdown* at work and took nearly 2 weeks off (already booked beforehand). Came back Monday and not much has improved though I'm running in 'low power' mode for a bit as I'm still not back on the horse. They're giving me some breathing space at least and will get me on projects and stuff shortly.

 

*Basically I was pushed to tears by the stress of it all, having to pick up other peoples **** ups consistently and people being lazy t***s. Got sick of it and and my boiler just gave in.

 

Had those 10 days off, which involved both a day at Wimbledon (good 1 Court tickets!) and a day at the NYMR with my mate and his young lad.