When he was about 8 or so years old my son had a martial arts instructor. We went to an out of town tournament and my son finished 5th of the 5 that entered. In fact, he didn't do well at all. He was quite bummed out. His instructor said, yes, "you were fifth at the tournament, but you were brave enough to go and compete in front of all those people" (he was quite new at the sport). "And", he said, "you did better than the hundreds who were too scared to try." I'm not sure wiser words were ever spoken. While I may not have remembered the correct wordage, the spirit of that pep talk has kept with me.