RMweb Gold Popular Post Oldddudders Posted January 9, 2013 RMweb Gold Popular Post Share Posted January 9, 2013 When I met Deb - then a 6th-former - she was already going out with my railway flatmate, as well as knowing other railway people, including a classmate whose father was a signalman. She'd even been on day-trip to Barry Island with one chap. Deb was passionate about horses - I'm still feeding them - and each having our own hobby was always fine. But she did take an interest, including having a go at scratchbuilding structures, and I think I still have one or two little bit of her modelling from those days - 1974. Repressing your interests, or expecting a partner to relinquish his/hers, is a recipe for an early split, I would say. 24 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
RMweb Gold Captain Kernow Posted January 9, 2013 RMweb Gold Share Posted January 9, 2013 Well generally on a first date I wouldn't mention it. Then usually once I'm caught, in one girlfriends case that was 2 years, I blame my interest on my late Grandfather! Although converting over to P4 certainly wasn't his idea, I blaime RMWeb for that, which equally I wouldn't mention that I'm a member of on a first date! Shoulda followed the Official DRAG advice, I think, there, old boy!.... (and yes, gentle reader, we did share his pain!! ) Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Baby Deltic Posted January 9, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted January 9, 2013 GF: "What are those? Are those model trains over there?" Me: "What trains?" GF: "Those trains......" Me: "Oh, THOSE trains........ well, you see.......its funny you should mention that....." GF "Well?" Me: ".... haven't I told you about my cat?" GF: "No, what about it?: Me: "Well, you see my cat just happens to like model railways........" 22 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xerces Fobe2 Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 I was informed by my other half it was not until our 3rd date that I mentioned model railways! I think i did quite well really! XF Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
RMweb Gold Captain Kernow Posted January 9, 2013 RMweb Gold Share Posted January 9, 2013 (edited) don't tell them on first date and for God's sake don't take them to a model railway exhibition on the first date. Well, that's exactly what CTMK & I did on our second date, although the cat was well and truely out of the bag even by that time - we met in the local bookshop (best transport selection in the area, in it's day), she as a current employee and me as an ex-employee who kept visiting the place because the owner still let me have staff discount on books!... The railway books were all in the downstairs basement of the shop, a place that CTMK came to call 'Gricers Grotto'... The owner had asked me and Simon C (now of Titfield Thunderbolt fame) to help out at the Bristol model railway show that year (it was still being held in the Watershed at the time), as the shop always had a stand there. It seemed entirely logical, therefore, to start the day out with CTMK from there, once I'd finished my stint behind the counter (CTMK didn't cover the shows herself, and when she turned up, they all thought she had come to help out on the stand, they were all a bit surprised to say the least when we walked off arm-in-arm to look at the layouts!)... On a more general note, most of us (?all of us?) have 'railways in the blood' to a greater or lesser extent. In my book, that means that you're not just going to give up a life-long hobby and interest to suit the needs of what could be only a temporary relationship. If you did, I'm sure that sooner or later you'd get 'itchy feet' and the railway interest would re-surface... so why hide something to begin with that is only going to come to the surface sooner or later?! Edited January 9, 2013 by Captain Kernow 11 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
alant Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 After being married for 30 plus years I can't remember how my other half was introduced to the world of model railways! 1 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Horsetan Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 ....Deb was passionate about horses - I'm still feeding them.... How are they? 1 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
James Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 It pretty much goes without saying that if you feel ashamed of it, it will come across that way when you talk about it. A very good point. No point hiding who you are either. I work somewhere where my interest is more likely to have the p*ss taken out of me than anyway else I think! But nobody is too bothered aside from when there's a special and I get a lot of phone call for details about what's on it! Some of you may have noticed, I really don't care what people think! Accept me as I am - thankfully Suzi did! Repressing your interests, or expecting a partner to relinquish his/hers, is a recipe for an early split, I would say. Suzi said that stopping me from doing what I enjoyed would only lead to resentment. The other thing in all of this is, I'd hope, is you choose to be with someone where you want to spend time with them too, for no reason other than you want to! 5 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
RMweb Gold Oldddudders Posted January 9, 2013 RMweb Gold Share Posted January 9, 2013 How are they? Looking fairly good, really. I'm overdue the farrier, but as they no longer have shoes on, that isn't too terrible. Teeth were rasped in November. Varian will be 32 this year. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
James Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 Looking fairly good, really. I'm overdue the farrier, but as they no longer have shoes on, that isn't too terrible. Teeth were rasped in November. Varian will be 32 this year. I got confused and still thought this was in relation to 'wmoen' as per the title! 5 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
RMweb Gold Oldddudders Posted January 9, 2013 RMweb Gold Share Posted January 9, 2013 I got confused and still thought this was in relation to 'wmoen' as per the title! As I'm 64, "pulling" a 32-year old lady might take a bit of extra effort! 5 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Max Stafford Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 Prefer the shoes on personally James - not the horses I'm referring to! Dave. 2 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Baby Deltic Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 Prefer the shoes on personally James - not the horses I'm referring to! Dave. Socks aswell? Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Michael Delamar Posted January 9, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted January 9, 2013 best to wait awhile before you ask her to wear kinky things. 19 1 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Max Stafford Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 Class, Mike. Welcome to The Brotherhood! Dave. 2 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
bbishop Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 Of course there is another option, find a woman who is helping at a model railway show. There are women out there who are interested in Model Railways themselves you know. Missy See you at St Albans, then Bill Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kenton Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 Our hobbies keep us apart, that understanding keeps us together. 3 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
RMweb Gold beast66606 Posted January 9, 2013 RMweb Gold Share Posted January 9, 2013 best to wait awhile before you ask her to wear kinky things. You want to see how I wave my flag .. (actually you probably don't) 3 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brian Harrap Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 Did she know you were a Baronet? No, I haven't told her that yet.........got to keep some little suprises for later........golly you'll have me believing it next. 3 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xerces Fobe2 Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 Is there a conversion factor for how many minutes in a woman clothes shop equals a minute at a model railway show? XF 5 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
RMweb Gold colin penfold Posted January 9, 2013 RMweb Gold Share Posted January 9, 2013 Interesting question. I also wonder what the exhibition equivalent of the man park outside the changing room might be? 4 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
(The) Youth Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 Is there a conversion factor for how many minutes in a woman clothes shop equals a minute at a model railway show? XF Perhaps more than a factor, maybe it Exponentially increases.. Shops(Mins) = eshows(mins) 2 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady_Ava_Hay Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 I understand that the married ones's significant others here accepted their husband's interest without any complaint. Define 'complaint' 1 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigAndy Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 I find myself on a bit of a winner these days ( trying desperately not to sound smug ) I met my wife ( 12 years younger than me - winner number 1 ) and on our first real date, discovered that I actually new her Dad very well from years ago, as he is a well known Narrow gauge modeller ( winner number 2 ) - this was before I had even got around to mentioning 'The Hobby', so I was onto a good thing from the outset.......... We've been together 9 years and have two lovely children, but even from the outset, my wife ( then girlfriend, would often come to a show at closing time and help us all knock down Leamside and then transport it back to the clubrooms ( winner number 3 ) - before we had the kids, obviously. These days, as she is used to her father being a modeller, she is more than happy for me to dissapear into the shed for hours at a time ( in fact as I sit here typing this, she has just suggested I go down to the shed for a couple of hours as I am just getting over that 'orrid Noro Virus thing and havn't been whittling since last Thursday - winner number 4 ) It's never a problem going to exhibitions or railway themed days out ( winner number 5 ) and she is more than content sitting on a train all day herself....... Apologies again if I sound a bit smug, but to be honest, I think I've 'never had it so good' - 16'x 9' airconditioned shed with spray booth as a workshop and the garage for me to build layouts in. Anyone else find themselves in a lucky position like me? .............somehow I've got a feeling that the can opener I've just taken to the tin in my hand has resulted in worms everywhere................. 5 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
RMweb Gold Oldddudders Posted January 9, 2013 RMweb Gold Share Posted January 9, 2013 Is there a conversion factor for how many minutes in a woman clothes XF Each to his own, I'm sure. 4 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
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