RMweb Premium PhilJ W Posted January 11, 2013 RMweb Premium Share Posted January 11, 2013 Is the title right? Shouldn't the order be "The hobby, women, and dating.." Need to get your priorities right. I cunningly waited till lads were old enough, then bought Thomas which I retrofitted with an old triang smoke unit. My wife then swiped Thomas to facilitate teaching the maths of loads and inclines in her classes, now there's gratitude for you. Did you put in for a replacement? Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
James Posted January 11, 2013 Share Posted January 11, 2013 Did you put in for a replacement? Wife or Thomas? I have one of each 4 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
'CHARD Posted January 11, 2013 Share Posted January 11, 2013 (edited) ...[train porn]... At work that's how my books have been referred to! Same here, and such material is our bread and butter, so we must be at the Paul Raymond end of the industry! Edited January 11, 2013 by 'CHARD 3 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
flyingsignalman Posted January 12, 2013 Share Posted January 12, 2013 My dearly beloved has known about my interest all the time we've been together (coming up to 30 years) and has even been known to have a go, seen here operating Roy Fair's O16.5 layout at Rainford in 2011. 11 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Jenny Emily Posted January 12, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted January 12, 2013 (edited) Since I 'came out' to my friends about my hobby I've discovered that a lot of my women friends sheepishly admit that they too like model trains. It's probably more common than you think. My partner didn't care about it and as Zoë likes making and painting Warhammer figures, it means that we can sometimes be found at opposite sides of the dining table sharing a few pots of Humbrol. My model railways are referred to as 'train porn' and the shed that houses my main layout is 'the porn shack'. She's pretty chilled about it all, and is more than happy for me and my friend Sam to spend lots of time out there playing trains. She just sits indoors talking photography and Photoshop with Sam's girlfriend. At exhibitions though I find it amusing that visitors always instinctively turn to Sam and ask him about the layout and how things were built. He then has to refer them to me at his side. Edited January 12, 2013 by Jenny Emily 20 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
ForestPines Posted January 14, 2013 Share Posted January 14, 2013 My second date with my current partner happened to be in York, just because it was a convenient venue for us. After lunch, with some time before we wanted to leave, I suggested a certain museum we could look round together for free (knowing she was a Yorkshire girl after all!) She did, I have to admit, become more interested in modelling when a) I switched to N to save space and b) started collecting German stock. She says she thinks that apart from the space issue N gauge is more aesthetically pleasing and less toylike; and prefers the look of German railways also, never mind excuses for research trips involving beer and pork products. As people have said, it's partly about having a partner who also enjoys creative and craft pursuits - but there's also an aspect of being confident about yourself. If you behave as if you have to hide part of your likes and dislikes, or if you go to the other extreme and behave as if you are your hobbies and nothing else, it's not going to give a good impression of your own self-confidence. 4 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChrisB Posted January 14, 2013 Share Posted January 14, 2013 (edited) Interesting thing to contemplate actually as it's never been a consideration until recently. Wife number one(30 years ago) was never aware of any interest as it wasn't there at the time. Instead, she had to put up with me being a permanent fixture in the garage tinkering with motorbikes or away at weekends racing them. By the time wife number two came along, it was building and competing with Land Rover based off road vehicles and getting cold, wet and muddy a lot. Model railways were still not an issue and both of them would be surprised to learn now that I had ever had any interest. Currently, however, being in the early-ish stages of a new relationship, it's been a bit different. Being that bit older and having slowed down a bit, the bug bit again about 4 years ago and in a biggish way. The subject hadn't come up until the time I took her to meet my mother and step father. When I enthused rather a lot about his model railway which I had helped him build in his garage, her reaction was "Oh no. Not another one. My ex husband used to be into model railways"! To cut a long story short, I'm a bit more balanced these days and not quite so obsessed with my hobbies and interests. She, being fairly practical and "crafty" has expressed an interest in making trees and buildings for the layout I have started building in the house I moved to just over a year ago. Being in our 50s and financially independent of one another, we are able to talk to each other about such things and agree that it;'s important for both parties to have their separate interests in order to have a healthy relationship........something we're both experts in !!! Edited January 14, 2013 by ChrisB 1 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Graham456 Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 Telling my now wife i was into model trains was very very,easy, in so much as we met at my local model railway club I didn't need to tell her she could see for here self ! Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
LNER4479 Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 (edited) What an inspiring and entertaining thread which I have enjoyed reading. Wife No.1 feigned interest in railways... right up until the moment where she had her two children, a sizeable 4 bedroom detached house and a comfortable standard of living Stuck up the wrong end of a siding, I was rescued by my Good Lady for whom I effected a mid-life crew change to become Wife No.2 (and everything Wife No.1 wasn't). Best thing I ever did (despite the financial worsenment). Being a fellow railway employee she loves being part of the 'railway family' (colleagues will know what I mean) and our 'large room with a house attached' residence now taking shape is everything I could have dreamed of Seems like I'm not the only one happy with their 'lot' (but I reckon I earned it from the earlier unfortunate experience). Funny thing is that she is fairly ambivalent towards model railways. There are only 3 scales as far as she is concerned: 'normal' scale (OO); 'fiddly' scale (N); and 'chunky' scale (O gauge and bigger) We might yet end up with a light-hearted LGB Harz-based 'chunky scale' system in the garden. She's great! Edited February 27, 2013 by LNER4479 10 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Foo Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 My girlfriend actually got me back into the hobby, on returning from a weekend away in Paris she bought me a Hornby train set on sale in hamleys with her student loan and it progressed from there. She probably regrets it now but if she ever complains I can just remind her it's her own fault 11 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xerces Fobe2 Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 I was discussing this thread with my other half and apparently I did not mention railways until the 3rd date and that was 11 years ago. We have been coupled up ever since! XF Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
RMweb Premium PaternosterRow Posted March 15, 2013 RMweb Premium Share Posted March 15, 2013 Tolerate is a word I'd use to describe my wife's attitude toward it all. On our last trip over to old Blighty, I took her up to York for a long weekend. On route we stopped off at Barrow Hill but she wouldn't come in and decided to have a snooze in the car instead. This put a bit a pressure on me as I knew this meant that the clock was ticking. All credit though, she seemed to enjoy our walk around the NRM the next day - she even allowed me to go back to the bits I wanted to see again and again and again!! Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coldgunner Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 Maybe for some of us it should be "Dating the hobby, and women." 3 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stevelewis Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 As I understand it second wives are much more approving of model railways as a hobby than first wives, very smart first wives are happy to know where their husbands are. Absolutely spot on!! If you are playin' trains, you arent out doing other things!! Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xerces Fobe2 Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 (edited) Remember 2,4 or 7mm/foot may not be acceptable in some areas of your relationship ! XF Edited March 15, 2013 by Xerces Fobe2 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
RMweb Gold roundhouse Posted March 15, 2013 RMweb Gold Share Posted March 15, 2013 My other half has bought 2 Norfolk Southern N scale locos but she wants me to buy her more. I keep telling her that if she wants more of them then she will have to buy them!! Although I suspect that I will end up buying her the heritage liveries when they come out. ian Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
rob D2 Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 My wife calls it " sad" these days. That's why she'll shortly be my ex - wife 11 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
br-nse-fan Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 (edited) As we initially met through an online service, she had plenty of time to run away. When it turned out that she was OK with the hobby... liked cats and NHL Hockey... even loved Doctor Who... I knew I had a keeper! I promptly made it my goal in life to marry her before she had second thoughts! Women like this don't come around every day! It's now been almost three years married, a little one who loves Thomas, and a second on the way, I've now got the excuse reason to chip some Thomas models for the layout! Edited March 15, 2013 by br-nse-fan 7 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
RMweb Premium uax6 Posted March 15, 2013 RMweb Premium Share Posted March 15, 2013 (edited) When I met Mrs G it wasn't railways that was the problem. it was the Telephone Exchanges and Morris Minors! I had (and still do) a two bed cottage, the dining room of which was a store for telephone spare parts (BT were disbanding their heritage collection at the time, so I had bought loads at auction), and the spare bedroom had my collection of telephones in it. The first Christmas we had together we went to her family in France, and on coming back I then spent the next four weekends on my back welding a floor and sills into my first moggy 1000 van. She admits that she married me as I am handy and remind her of her dad. Needless to say I've got rid of quite a lot of stuff (about 10 tons of telephone gear (4 complete strowger exchanges and two minors, still have three exchanges and two vans, one the daily driver to work), so we're about quits! Now the only thing she moans about is that I seem to now have model stuff taking up space in the house, but i don't think she really minds as she knows where I am. I never stop her doing her hobby (cross stitching) and I don't drag her round exhibitions etc. I do keep increasing the book collection, but she is happy with that! She's a good girl really, and as long as I do the decorating when I'm told I'm usually ok! Andy g Edited March 15, 2013 by uax6 2 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Natalie Graham Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 . When it turned out that she was OK with the hobby... liked cats and NHL Hockey... We are not married, are we? 1 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
br-nse-fan Posted March 16, 2013 Share Posted March 16, 2013 We are not married, are we? Not unless you like Doctor Who too... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
RMweb Premium John M Upton Posted April 4, 2013 RMweb Premium Share Posted April 4, 2013 Rather unexpectedly there is now a lady in my life and as we were chatting over tea earlier we were discussing what made for the perfect home, we agreed on the large garden, plenty of space, country setting, wood burning stove and then I added 'and an attic for the model railway room' to which she openly agreed!!!! 2 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tin Turtle Posted April 4, 2013 Share Posted April 4, 2013 'Came out' about the hobby to find she had a layout before I did. Sorted! Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
lyndonsdad1 Posted April 4, 2013 Share Posted April 4, 2013 just remember that logic is a word unknown to the fairer sex! Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve Williams Posted April 4, 2013 Share Posted April 4, 2013 'Came out' about the hobby to find she had a layout before I did. Sorted!Now that's what I call landing on your feet. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
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